Couples: tips for satisfying your wife in bed

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Extract from the article: Satisfying a woman in bed has its secrets. You need all the art you can muster to give your wife maximum pleasure. That's the opinion of Afiavi Povi Eusebio Amenouvévé, State Midwife (Togo) and President of the ‘Mongnon Mongnon Pomenefa’ association.

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Satisfying a woman in bed has its secrets. You need all the art you can muster to give your wife maximum pleasure. That's the opinion of Afiavi Povi Eusebio Amenouvévé, State Midwife (Togo) and President of the ‘Mongnon Mongnon Pomenefa’ association.

Sex remains one of the most important elements in the life of a couple. Successful intercourse creates harmony, reinforces the love a woman feels for her husband and vice versa. The opposite, it is often said, creates frustration and misunderstanding, and predisposes the couple to petty quarrels. Hence the importance of understanding and reading your wife's gestures to help her achieve orgasm.

Afiavi Povi Eusebio Aménouvévé, known for her ability to explain how a couple's sex life works, and much in demand on the media for programmes on the subject, talks openly about the little secrets that can spice up a couple's sex life.

Excitement

This consists of getting a woman to feel the desire and need to make love. It's essential that the husband creates the right environment for her to be as excited as possible. This can involve soft music, subdued lighting, gentle words, light touching, a funny story and so on.

Caressing

Once she is confident, she is prepared and ready to indulge in something a little more daring. At this stage, the husband chooses ‘the woman's sensitive points’, which he explores delicately and sensually, in order to communicate with her. ‘Some women feel pleasure in their breasts, while others succumb to clitoral caresses, and still others love to have their neck or ears touched... Some women get excited just looking their man in the eye. It depends on the woman, as each woman has her own sensitive spot’, says Afiavi Povi Eusebio Aménouvévé. And he urges every man to get to know his wife's erogenous zones.

Penetration

Once caressed and sufficiently aroused, it's only natural for a woman to invite her husband to penetrate her. ‘During the act, the woman must ejaculate. Some men don't realise that women also have to ejaculate. During sexual intercourse, if the woman does not ejaculate before the man does, it is not a successful sexual encounter. Ideally, both partners should ejaculate at the same time. Or the woman ejaculates a few seconds before the man’, explains the midwife.

If women want to come, they must also take part in the act

Women have a role to play in the success of sexual intercourse, insists the president of the ‘Mongnon Mongnon Pomenefa’ association. ‘If she wants to have an orgasm during intercourse, she must hold her vagina tightly and release it when the man penetrates.She should continue to do this for a few seconds.When you do this, you have an orgasm at the same time as the man’, she prescribes.

She advises women to do this exercise on their own by touching their vagina while using the toilet. ‘Some women can't do it at first, but with practice, they eventually master the technique. For others, it's an illness and they just can't do it. And they have difficulty achieving orgasm. That's why it's sometimes advisable for those who can't manage to do it to continue with the sequence, tightening their body and relaxing it, even in public. This helps them to master the exercise quickly.

The four necessary stages

All sexual contact follows four stages. The arousal phase; the plateau phase during which the man caresses the woman's erogenous zones, ‘she is said to be at the plateau’; orgasm and finally rest. According to Eusebio Amenouvévé, after each sexual encounter, there must be a rest.Even if both partners still want it, you need to rest, like two teams that go into half-time at a certain point, before resuming the game.

How can we help the husband to know his wife's sensitive points?

To make it easier to read a woman's movements and help her to come fully, she wants sex to take place in the light, not in the dark. ‘When some men want to ejaculate, they shout, others make faces, and so on.The same goes for women.So in the dark, it's difficult to detect all this in his wife if the grimaces aren't accompanied by screams’, she points out.

Successfully getting your wife high in bed is an art that the midwife urges you to learn.

 Source: Afrique femme